Thursday, October 22, 2009

Autumn Family Time
















Whew! Who knew back to school time got busier and busier every year and with every addition to the family? Not much extra time for blogging and such. Here's some new pix in lieu of posting.

Wednesday, September 30, 2009

First Day of School!


















Whoops! These pictures loaded in the opposite order !!! Cameron had his first day of pre-school, Carter's first day of 3rd grade and there is a picture of them all in mom and dad's bed that morning . . . the boys had both snuck in at some point in the early morning hours.



Sunday, September 20, 2009

Playtime Ideas

I've been attempting to accumulate more fun, inexpensive play and craft ideas for the fam that don't involve going anywhere or buying anything . . . gotta prep for winter time! I'm a big fan of our beautiful seasons in Michigan and winter can be lots of fun but the littles can only be out in the cold for so long.
SIMPLEkids.net chock full of fun, ideas, articles of interest to parents with littles . . . this website is another of my New! Favorites!

kidscraftweekly.com is a SPECTACULAR website for families. I love painting, crafting, creating with the kids. This site has endless ideas. I especially loved all of these outdoor activities that are listed at http://kidscraftweekly.com/outdoor_activities.html I'm telling ya, you just gotta check it out - another one of my New! Favorite! Websites. I can't wait to try some of the ideas like setting up an obstacle course in the back or front yards, having a rolling race or building an outdoor blanket fort.

Looking forward to hours of endless fun with my littles :)

Saturday, September 19, 2009

Contentment!


Ahhh . . . to be content . . . to be happy with who you are, where you are, where you live, what you look like, your relationships, etc. At least, these are the things I struggle to be content with (and more, to be honest.)

I gotta be honest: the following info that I'm putting up I found on my NEW! FAVORITE! website, simplemom.net - I love, love, love it. These are great tips for being content and I plan to post them up on my bathroom mirror. These principles are from a book called Calm My Anxious Heart: A Woman’s Guide to Finding Contentment by Linda Dillow.

*Never allow yourself to complain about anything — not even the weather.
*Never picture yourself in any other circumstance or someplace else.
*Never compare your lot with another’s.
*Never allow yourself to wish this or that had been otherwise.
*Never dwell on tomorrow — remember that tomorrow is God’s, not ours.


On a side note, we had a discussion on contentment at our women's Bible study group this summer and Robyn, our fearless leader, pointed out that it's important to not confuse complacency with contentment.

Saturday, September 12, 2009

As of Late

My grandfather is going to pass away any minute, my hubs is severely exhausted and I'm . . .

Grandpa, who resides in Pheonix, AZ with Grandma (several other family members have migrated in that direction as well) was visiting my aunt Johnna and her little family in Atlanta, GA last week. Grandpa is a cancer suriving, Hungarian-American, beloved guy. He and Grandma have 5 children and 10 grandchildren. Grandma doesn't travel anymore and has become more and more of a recluse as time passes by.

They were out to dinner (I'm sure at some incredible Atlanta restaurant that Johnna and Rob and their friends frequent.) Grandpa was eating and started to choke on his food. Rob attempted to perform the heimlich to no avail. Gramps passsed out because he was oxygen deprived. The EMT's arrived and performed CPR and rushed him to the hospital. Surgery was performed to remove his spleen and repair his stomach tears (probably from the compressions??) We waited by the phone each day to hear news since Tuesday. At first, things were looking up; he opened his eyes, squeezed a hand, heart rate sped up when Uncle Chip talked to him about food. Then today we heard that he has no brain function except from the brain stem.

I loved going to Grandma and Grandpa's house when they still lived in MI when I was a kid. Grandpa had a shiny black baby grand in the upstairs family room and he would play old tunes and let me sing along as if I really knew how to read the music.

Their basement held so many treasures; dusty old novels, a billiards tables, old halloween costumes, vintage clothing, antiques, etc. I would sit and type stories for hours on their old typewriter. After exploring, I would head upstairs, hand Aunt Jill one of my short stories, swim in the pool and then come in for one of Grandpa's famous meals replete with appetizers, salads, breads and desserts. We feasted on each other's company and his bountiful table. After dinner, I would head up to Grandma's bedroom where she would pull out her jewelry box and let me sort through and try on her beautiful jewelry (real and costume.) I would try on Aunt Rita's vintage clothing and play with Grandma's face creams and makeup. Then I would head downstairs to watch television and look at magazines with Grandma on the chaise lounge while Grandpa snored prostrate on the floor in front of the tv and wait for someone to comment on my makeup, hair and outfit.

I'm a little heavy-hearted lately; that's why I haven't posted a review of 'Fearless' yet. Truth be told, I'm 2 or 3 chapters away from finishing the book. I'm thankful to be able that I serve a God who is gracious and patient with me.

Sunday, September 6, 2009

Stress Relief

Try out some of the following tips to help relieve stress and anxiety. I found these at essortment.com/all/stressrelief.rvhn.htm

Breathe Deeply – Inhale deeply through your nose. Pull the air all the way down, deep into the lungs. Hold the breath for a count of six. Exhale slowly through the mouth to the count of six. Do this for several minutes. Be careful not to hyperventilate. If dizzy or light-headedness occur, begin breathing naturally.

Express Feelings and Thoughts - Call a friend. Join a group. Join a community on the Internet. If you feel these avenues are not helping talk to your doctor, seek out a counselor. Use all resources after through work, church and community. If seeing a counselor is something you’re fearful of, consider getting a pet. Pets listen very well.

Make Time for Relaxation and Fun – Find an activity that makes you feel good. It may be dancing, listening to music, walking along the beach, prayer, hiking in the mountains, working in the garden, taking photographs, watching birds, going to the movies, golfing, swimming, visiting museums. Make a list of activities that give you joy. Break them down into time segments of 2-5 minutes, 5-20 minutes, 30 minutes to ½ day and ½ day or longer. List the activities that give you joy under these time segments. Do at least three of them everyday. Most people think they have to do big things, such as vacations of whole days away from work or home to relieve stress. Not so, small activities that give you joy are the best stress busters.

Exercise - Try something new, like swimming. Begin a walking program. Do some form of exercise that interests you. Make sure to consult your physician beforehand.

Laugh - Laughter is a great way to relieve stress. If you find something funny, have a good belly laugh. Watch funny movies. Read funny stories.

Learn Happy Talk - Humor your stress. Go to www.stressed.com for a class in happy talk.

Get Rid of Negative - Take a hard look at the circle or environment you’re standing in. People who are negative and prone to “moods” spread negativity to others. Learn to say no to negativity and remove yourself from it whenever possible.

Write – Write out your complaints or troubles. Writing is no substitute for professional help but it does allow you to vent your feelings and frustrations. By writing with pen in hand or at the keyboard, you may discover an insight or solution to whatever is frustrating or bothering you.

Get A Massage – Make an investment in yourself. Massage therapy can relax muscles, easy muscle spasm, increase blood flow to skin and muscles and relieve mental and emotional stress. A massage will be one of the best investments you’ve ever made.

Be Realistic in Expectations– Don’t expect everyone to be like you or behave to your code of “shoulds and oughts”. Don’t expect to be right all the time. Don’t expect harmony all the time. Real life has conflicts in it. Be willing to confront conflict, state your needs then work at coming to a mutual compromise.

Examine your expectations of yourself - When you can’t live up to them, they will cause stress, tension and pressure. Learn to say no when unrealistic demands are placed upon you. Communicate what you can do and what you can’t do clearly. Be honest with yourself on the expectations (goals) you place on yourself. Don’t let ego and social pressure force you into being/doing something your not.

Monitor Your Communication Skills – Aggressive and hostile communication with others antagonizes and alienates. Assertive training can help you learn to express your needs without offending others or feeling ignored.

You can only change yourself - Work to grasp the full meaning of this statement. Trying to change another person causes stress to both parties. It can ruin relationships, damage relationships and cause others to withdraw from you. If you make statements such as – if only he, if only she, if only they – then you need to look in the mirror and say, what can I change about myself to make the situation better.

Accept - If you can’t leave a situation that is causing you extreme stress then accept it as it is. Adjust your approach to it. Look for ways to see positive things. Do not dwell on the negative. Above all, if the situation is abusive, either physically or emotionally (this includes work situations also) seek professional help through counseling.

Stress will not suddenly disappear in modern day life. It will remain,even increase. To reduce and manage stress takes a commitment to do so. Make a commitment to practice or do anyone of the following tips and chances are stress levels will begin to fall to a range where it is manageable and causes no long-term damage to health or relationships.

Saturday, September 5, 2009

Who's that girl?

I've always wanted to be the girl who has it all together. Subconciously (and sometimes conciously) I've presented myself that way or attempted to, anyway.

The fact is, I don't. I aim to. I desire to. I seek to. I fail to.

"Seek first the Kingdom of God and His righteousness and all of these things will be added unto you." Matthew 6:33

Jesus, help me to keep You in the forefront of my heart and mind. I choose to place You first and let everything fall into place after. Help me to be okay with who I am in You today, with where I am at on this journey with You without becoming complacent. Let me remain content in Your presence and in my identity in You.

No fizz . . .

I haven't been posting much lately because I've been running on empty and feeling a little flat.

I've gotta re-fuel . . . spend some QT with my King, get some good shut-eye, read a good book, connect with friends . . .

Coming soon! A review of Max Lucado's to-be-released on September 8 "Fearless."

Thursday, August 27, 2009

Urgent: Please pray!

Doctors have discovered a large tumor in the lower abdomen of a dear family friend, Larry. Please pray for his healing and recovery! Please pray for strength and peace for his very large and loving family. Larry's life has been a testimony of faith . . . may his testimony grow bigger!

Tuesday, August 25, 2009

A Little Bit Sad Today . . .

Well, I did it. I had to resign as coordinator of MNO - the Single Mom's Night Out program. I feel really sad about my resignation . . . I didn't resign due to lack of vision . . . I didn't resign due to lack of passion . . . I didn't resign because I'm a quitter. I have lots of vision and passion; and I am definitely not a quitter.

You see, I've just decided that it's healthy to say 'no' once in a while. I'm a 'yes' girl. I love to say 'yes.' I love a project, I love coming up with ideas and I love seeing those ideas turn into reality. I have fully loved MNO and the women who attend and I still do.

I've decided that I have to put my family first. My first and most important ministry is to the littles who reside in our home. MNO requires lots of time that ends up coming from my family -- and my weekend job at the sleep clinic does, too.

I'm really going to miss being a part of MNO and even more I'm going to miss the moms. However, I am really excited about what Jesus is doing in our little family and I am so glad to be a part of it.

Thursday, August 20, 2009

Olives and Onions

My sweet baby girl is snacking on olives marinated in garlic and baby onions marinated in balsamic vineagr. I think it's safe to say she has her mama's taste buds.

I've been trying to rev myself up for the new season of MNO -- a monthly dinner I coordinate, organize and emcee for single moms from our area. We offer free childcare, a free restaurant-quality dinner, practical living learning sessions, relationship building and more.

I just can't seem to get any get up and go. I love what we do; I know that it's relevant, important to the moms, and it's where Jesus' heart beats. Yet I still feel overwhelmed by the enormity of the tasks that lay ahead . . . all of the planning, the recruiting, the scheduling, the long Fridays of the event (where I head straight to the sleep clinic after to work my 3rd shift weekends.)

As much as I love, even SAVOR this monthly ministry event, I must confess . . . I am feeling like there is a whole lotta stuff to be done and not a whole lotta me.

Well, I meant to post more, but garlic-breath (Vivi) is getting into the pots and pans. More later . . .

Sunday, August 16, 2009

A Review of The Read and Share Toddler Bible from Thomas Nelson Publishers


The Read and Share Toddler Bible is a perfect addition to your family library if you have children up to the age of four years. My three and half year old and I have really enjoyed reading it together at bedtime since it arrived in the mail. I've also been including my 9 month old in our bedtime readings and I think she is having fun with it, too.

The stories, retold by Gwen Ellis, are written and designed to hold the *short* attention span of my wiggly littles. At the end of each story, a suggestion is given for a discussion or activity to help further implant the heart of the story on your child's heart. For example, after reading the story of how Jacob was tricked into marrying Leah instead of Rachel, parents are encouraged to talk to their kids about how we eventually get what we give. To tell our little ones about how to be kind to others and to let them know that God is happy when he or she is kind. After the conclusion of several stories (all re-telling the tale of Joseph; his brother's jealousy, being sold into slavery, sent to jail, rise to ruler in Egypt and saving the country and his family from famine) parents are encouraged to help their littles understand that God can make even bad things turn out to be good things - because He loves us.

This book does a good job of pointing the need for and the way to Jesus through the stories chosen to re-tell from the OT and the NT. Each story is simplified for the kids understanding without losing the impact, importance or value. This is an excellent tool for parents to utilize in building up the foundation of their kids' faith through familiarity. It's also great time spent during family reading time.

I also wanted to mention that the DVD that comes along with the book is excellent -- even my 8 year old loved watching it. The DVD version goes a little more in depth and I really enjoy watching it with my kids - that's right, we're going to keep on watching the DVD and reading the book. Well done!

Tuesday, August 11, 2009

My sweet girl!



Vivian . . . just like her name says; lively . . .so full of life! She is everything we prayed for and dearly loved by every member of our little family.

Monday, August 10, 2009

Sunday, August 9, 2009

T.G.I.S!

Ahhhh, the weekend is almost over!

You read it right. I'm thankful it's finally Sunday morning and I'm almost done with work and I can't wait to walk into my house amongst familiar surroundings and see sweet little chubby cheeks and have little arms wrap around my neck and hear the words, "Mommy, can you get me milk-a-milk?"

Sunday! I'll warm up Cam's 'milk-a-milk' (yep, he likes it warm - even complains if it's not warm enough,) I'll kiss Carter and Vivans' cheeks, I'll promise my husband that I'll only sleep for a couple of hours and then I'll wake up to enjoy our sweet little family.

I'm so grateful to be blessed with a job that I enjoy and that allows me to do my full-time, unpaid, most important jobs . . . wife and mom.

*Yawn* Good night!

Saturday, August 8, 2009

What does it look like to follow Jesus?

I used to think it meant smiling a lot, encouraging words, bringing something to a potluck and maybe helping out with the nursery or the worship team.

Thankfully, it's not *just* that at all.

In these past 5 years or so of following Jesus at Vineyard I've learned that attending church has absolutely nothing to do with my comfort level or my being 'fed.' I've learned that it's not about ME at all.

I've learned that Jesus has called me to action. To feed the hungry, visit the sick or imprisoned. To disciple and be discipled. I've learned that I'm not following Jesus if I can walk past someone hurting or hungry and do nothing.

I've learned that being a friend, a good friend, doesn't just mean being nice and giving a shoulder to cry on. It might also mean being 100% truthful *in love,* even if it stings a little. I've learned that while we are supposed to enjoy our relationships we are also supposed to sharpen each other.

I've learned to not be easily offended. I'm learning to be humble and gentle.

Mostly . . . I've learned that's it not about me. I'm not the center of the universe.

Growing in Him,

Amanda

Thursday, July 30, 2009

Stop Me in My Tracks!


Isn't it hard to break bad habits?

Lifestyle patterns?

Attitudes?

Have you ever noticed how easily a thought turns into an action?

Have you ever been irritated with someone and thought to yourself, 'oh, what a jerk!' Your emotions surge, the thoughts continue to spin around in your mind. You think about how this person has wronged you, you begin to feel justified. Next thing you know, you are talking to someone (friend, husband, co-worker) and telling them why that person is so rude and out of line.
Sin begins with a simple thought

A thought that is entertained becomes words on your lips

The words turn into attitudes and regrettable actions
In 2 Corinthians 10:5, Paul commands us to ' . . . take captive every thought and make it obedient to Christ . . ."

That doesn't sound easy, does it?

I think the key lies in Philippians 4:8 where we are instructed to think on these:

Whatever is true
Whatever is noble
Whatever is right
Whatever is pure
Whatever is lovely
Whatever is admirable
If anything is excellent or praiseworthy
Think about such things

So what is your negative thought that needs replacing? Does it go something like this, "Evan is so ______ " or "Why can't he just __________?" "Why does she always _________?"

Why not find something to replace that train of thought with? "Evan is so kind. He has a gift for noticing details." "I love the way he always makes sure there is gas in the car for me." "Her soft heart really breaks for the hurting."

Just try it. It's really been revolutionary for me! Let me know how it's workin' for ya.

Sunday, July 26, 2009

The Gift of Listening

"The greatest gift that we can give one another is rapt attention to one another's existence." Sue Atchley Ebaugh

I love to talk! I love to feel heard and understood. I love to feel like the recipient of my words is thinking; "Wow, that's interesting! Tell me more. You are sooo smart. What a great point . . . I never thought of that."

I'm realizing lately that I talk too much. I haven't been giving friends, family and co-workers my 'rapt attention.' I want to start listening more. I want to ask more questions and then wait for the response without interjecting.

So, friend, what's on your mind? What are you struggling with today? I'd like to hear all about it.

Tuesday, July 21, 2009

A review of The Noticer, by Andy Andrews for Thomas Nelson Publishers


The Noticer by Andy Andrews is an uplifting, inspiring, quick read that has the ability to change, well . . . your perspective. Ten chapters lead the reader through a series of vignettes that cover all sorts of seemingly 'hopeless' situations.' The main character, Jones, a blue-eyed, white-haired elderly man, encourages those he comes across in the midst of crisis or desperate circumstances to take on a different perspective . . . one illuminated by hope.

The narrator of the story begins the first chapter by sharing his own first experience with Jones and then follows him on his path to helping others. The nebulous Jones never ages and appears to take on the appearance of whatever race or nationality of whomever he is helping at the moment. He has a way of showing up when hopelessness and despair creep up in one's life. No one knows how he gets there or where he goes once he leaves. He leaves a trail of hope and new perspective behind. The author mysteriously alludes to the possibility of Jones being . . . whomever you think he might be.

This was a highly enjoyable book, a great pick-me-up in the form of a quick read. I definitely recommend it and I think you will enjoy it as well.

Tuesday, July 14, 2009

Found Treasures at Duck Lake
















Ever heard of Duck Lake? I haven't done any fact-checking yet, but my husband told me that it's reported to be one of the cleanest and clearest lakes not only in our state but in the USA. If seeing is believing, then I'm a believer. Here are some of the boys' snail shell finds . . . I thought they were really pretty and wanted to take lots of pictures . . . and then my camera battery died . . . and then I realized I forgot the camera charger . . . enjoy!

Traverse City Cherry Festival 5K









This was a great race and I hope to do it again! The date of the race falls at the end of the Cherry Festival which has lots of family and kid events, a fabulous carnival with lots of different rides and all on the shores of gorgeous Lake Michigan.
The race started at Northwestern Michigan College Campus and ended in downtown Traverse City. My time for this race was 26:49 - a great improvement over my first 5K earlier this year at 30:15. I can't wait for my next race! I've been thinking about training for a half marathon . . . sounds like a challenging adventure!

Monday, July 6, 2009

Summer Fun!


We are having so much fun this summer . . . we've been spending a lot of time with friends outside! We've been going to sprinkler parks,the beach, friends' back yards, friends' houses, family reunions at the lake, water balloon fights, fireworks, etc. We're looking forward to our second camping trip of the summer this weekend and Aunt Jill from Pheonix is coming in to visit soon. Summer is truly our family's favorite time of year.

Saturday, June 27, 2009

Check this out: Rob Bell's 'Drops Like Stars' Tour


We plot, we plan, we assume things are going to go
A certain way and then they don’t and we find ourselves
In a new place, a place we haven’t been before, a place
We never would have imagined on our own,
And so it was difficult and unexpected and maybe even
Tragic and yet it opened us up and freed us to see
Things in a whole new way
Suffering does that—
It hurts,
But it also creates.
How many of the most significant moments in your
Life came not because it all went right, but because
It all fell apart?
It’s strange how there can be art in the agony…

This is from Rob Bell's new tour . . . I wanna check it out! You can check it out at robbell.com

Sunday, June 21, 2009

Father's Day

Happy Father's Day to the dads in my family. My hubby -- I love that gleam in your eye when you're playing a game of tickle monster with our kids and the way that baby girl searches for you when she hears your voice. My dad -- I'm so glad I have such a great advice giver, fixer, mentor, friend in you! I love the way my kids get to excited to come over to your house and play and 'work' with you.

You two are exceptional!

Thursday, June 18, 2009

I'm Pondering This . . .

What would it look like if God had the chance, not for Him to look like us, but us to look like Him?

Friday, June 5, 2009

"Mom, do you like swippin' on your guitar?"


I've already told you about Cameron's great love of music. He loves to listen to it, dance to it, play it, sing it . . . I love his passion and remember feeling that way myself when I was little. Jeff has stories about his great love of music when he was little, too.

Earlier this week we had to stop by the church office to print out some letters and get some mailing supplies for a MNO (single mom's ministry) outing. As I was loading the kids back into the van, Cameron asked me, "Mom, can't we go back inside and sing for a little bit?" He calls the sanctuary "The Lord's ship house" and he loves to go over to the youth/children's ministry where they have microphones and a drum kit and go to town.

Yesterday was Carter's Field Day for school. Cameron followed Carter for most of the day and even played one of the games with his class (the kids in Carter's class love Cameron from all of our Thursday lunches!) After a while, Cameron wanted me to push him on the swings. "Faster, Mommy! Faster!" He giggled and then was quiet for a few minutes.

"Mommy, do you like swippin' on your guitar?" I was a little puzzled. "What is 'swippin', Cam?"
He showed me that he meant strumming and singing along. "If I had a guitar, I would love to 'swip' on it, Cammers."

I just found it interesting (and super-cute) that he's thinking about his guitar (who he previously named 'little lady') even when he's playing on the playground!

Sunday, May 31, 2009

The Brokenness of Humanity Explained to a 7 Year Old


Earlier this week, the three littles and myself went to Meijer for a few things. As we were tumbling out of the vehicle, my seven year old asked me a very serious question. "Mom, did you know that everything on earth is in danger because of humans?"

How come the serious questions always come when you are the least prepared?

Instantly what came to mind was "Amanda, quick! Explain the plight of the eco-system as it relates to original sin -- this is a great teaching moment." Right. Got it. Problem: I've completely lost my ability to articulate, to have clear thoughts and to draw lines between conclusions and concepts.

"Well, yes, I did know that. Remember when you used to read your old children's Bible at night? Your favorite story was about Adam and Eve, remember?" So I rambled on about how after God had created Eve to be a companion for Adam, He gave them mandates to 'subdue and multiply.' How God had told them that they eat of any tree except from the Tree of the Knowledge of Good and Evil. If they ate of it, they would surely die.

"Mom, that's not what I'm talking about." "Well, hold on, I'm getting there." I'm clicking Viv's car seat on top of the grocery cart, pulling Cameron out of the video cart, instructing Carter to sit on the bench with little brother.

I explained how Adam and Eve's decision to disobey God had introduced brokenness and sin into our once perfect world. It was because of their sin that we would have to experience death, hurt, sin, etc. I tried to draw a line from there to pollution to mismanagement of the world's natural resources.

"Mom, that's not what I'm talking about."

Maybe I should have just said, "Really? Tell me more!" I was so excited to have this big, teachable, memorable moment between us that I might have forgotten that he is 7 and a half and not 12 or 14. I think it might have been more important to let him talk and share about his day and what he learned at school.

Biggest takeaway: talk less, listen more. Both in my relationship to God, husband, children and others.

Friday, May 29, 2009

"God told me . . ."


About a year and a half ago or so I took the kids to the YMCA and after I worked out I took Carter, then age 6, to climb the rock wall. It was his second time trying. He made it about halfway up and then became frightened and wanted to come down. He asked me to try it. I only got about 2/3 of the way to the top before I was ready to call it quits. The wall is high and once you start realizing how high up you are it becomes a little frightening!

It was quiet for the first few minutes of the drive home. Then, from the back of the vehicle, Carter spoke up. "Mom. Next time, I'm going to make it to the top of the rock wall. God told me."

Gulp.

Now what? Do I let him try again in a few days, weeks, months, never??? I mean, surely, he's got to be making this up. I mean, I can't let him try again and then fail and then lose hope? I felt anxious and wanted to 'protect' him and furthermore (although I didn't realize it at the time) I wanted to 'protect' God from . . . what?

I'm ashamed to say that I dropped the ball. I didn't take Carter to the rock climbing wall. He didn't really ask, but I didn't really encourage him. I didn't want him to fail or God to fail him.

So here we are about a year and half later and one Saturday Jeff takes the kids out to a family day for work at a nearby camp where there all sorts of games, prizes, activities and *gasp* a rock climbing wall.

When I woke up (I work 3rd shift weekends) Jeff was all smiles telling me how much fun he and the kids had that morning. Cameron had been running all over the place, Vivian sat cheerfully in her stroller and Carter (now age 7.5) had fun playing games (by himself and with Cameron.)

"Oh, and guess what?" said my handsome husband beaming proudly. "Carter climbed the rock wall." I gulped. "He climbed all the way to the top, can you believe that?" My jaw dropped to the floor. I asked him how tall the rock wall was in comparison to the one at the YMCA. As tall, maybe taller. "Amanda, it was awesome! We were all cheering him on. When he was done, he got down and was so matter of fact. 'Well, I climbed to the top. I knew I could do it.' "

I guess God doesn't need me to insulate him from Carter's childlike faith, huh? I am happily put back into my proper place. And for that matter, I've learned that it's okay (good, even) for kids to fail sometimes. They learn valuable lessons when they mess up - and so do we.

Friday, May 22, 2009

'Little Lady'


Our kids are so amazing! I love the special, individual uniqueness that comes with each one. I have a short story about Cameron (age 3) yesterday . . .

Cameron is passionate about music. He loves to listen to it in the car non-stop -- when he picks a new favorite song, he insists that we listen to it over and over and over and over and . . . For Christmas Uncle Alan bought both of the boys each a real little guitar. Cameron plays his and sings at the top of his lungs -- daily.

Daddy had worked all night long and was sleeping. We live in a very small space on one floor so the kids had to be quiet if we are inside. As per usual, Cameron pulled out his guitar and started strumming a singing (this is never a quiet activity - think hard rock.) I informed him that he needed to put his guitar away that it wasn't a good time to play it. After first refusing me, he decided to comply (who wants to sit in time out?) albeit tearfully. He put it away in the closet of his bedroom and walked out into the living room tears streaking down his cheeks. He looked at me and then turned in the direction of his bedroom and waved and said, "Goodbye, Little Lady . . . "

"Cameron, who is 'Little Lady'?" He sniffled. "Is 'Little Lady' your guitar?" Sniffle. "Yep." Sniffle.

Who names their guitar? At three years old? *sigh* I love him.

Saturday, May 9, 2009

Race Results


I ran the River Bank Run 10K today with my friend Laura. We've been training once a week together with our friend Rebekah who couldn't run today due to a serious sinus infection AND being awake all night due to Mucinex. Who knew? It was rainy and windy and gray and hard! I'm not feeling to well, either . . . I have a bad head cold, laryngitis, coughing fits, etc. If you know me at all, you know that I either a) don't fess up to being sick (some might call it denial) or b) don't get sick very often. Really, it's true. Jeff didn't want me to participate but I paid $36 to register and that's a hefty chunk of change out of my (very) little pocket book.

It was so fun! There were people stationed all along the race route cheering us on, mile markers with timers so you could check your time, water and Gatorade stations AND at the end they had water, watermelon, oranges, bananas, bagels, yogurt, granola bars AND a special pin that says 10K River Bank Run 2009 AND my RBR '09 t-shirt. All in all, this race is/was worth every dollar spent!

Our time (we stuck together!) was 58:15. We did do a short walk while drinking some water and Gatorade a little more than half way through. Just to think if we had kept running during our water walk we could have made it in 57:??! does drive me a little nutty.

We've decided that we (Laura, Rebekah and I) are going to keep our weekly running group together and aim for another race. We're looking at the Traverse City Cherry Festival - the Meijer Festival of Races coming this summer and ultimately, we'd like to train/run the Grand Rapids half marathon in October. Woot woot! Aim high, right? Too bad all of this running doesn't have me showing off a leaner physique (yet?!)

Tuesday, May 5, 2009

Mom's Night Out - a breathing space for moms who are pressed in by life

This Friday it's time for Mom's Night Out again. Our teaching session is 'Vacationing on a Dime' and we're theming the decor and the food around a Mexican vacation. Ole! This will be our last dinner get-together for the season . . . I can't believe we're finishing our second year!

Our theme for April was 'Dating and the Single Mom.' I want to share some pics with you so that you can see how special it is --- although it is best experienced in person so you can feel and hear what God is doing! I'm having trouble loading pictures right now but I'll keep on trying!

Tuesday, April 21, 2009

Fasting? The Daniel Fast; coming my way soon . . .

At a birthday party for one of Carter's friends recently, I was talking to two of my girlfriends (oddly enough, both named Julie) when one Julie informed me that the other Julie had just completed 10 days of the Daniel Fast (I'll explain more later!) The latter Julie went on to inform me (and those who gathered 'round excitedly once she announced the results of said fast) that during 10 days of the Daniel Fast she lost minimum 7 lbs and 7% body fat!!! Her results were probably much better than that; she had to end the fast during a family visit with lots of cake, eating out, etc. She thinks it may have been much closer to 10 lbs, 10% body fat in 10 DAYS!!!

Even more importantly, Julie said that the primary reason for the fast (as every fast's purpose should be, I suppose) was to pray, seek the Lord and grow in Wisdom. I'm on board! To follow are some of the guidelines. I promise I'll keep you updated on my progress once I begin. I'm super scared and super excited! Believe it or not, I have NEVER fasted and NEVER dieted. Neither has ever appealed to me. But the idea of doing something that both honors God and grows me in relationship to Him AND honors the body that He has blessed me with is exciting . . . and TERRIFYING!

Giddy-up! Here we go!!!

DANIEL FAST FOOD LIST
“In those days I, Daniel, was mourning three full weeks. I ate no pleasant food, no meat or wine came into my mouth, nor did I anoint myself at all, till three whole weeks were fulfilled.” Daniel 10:2, 3

One of the great things about the Daniel Fast is that you are not limited to any specific amount of food, but rather to the kinds of food you can eat. The Daniel Fast is limited to vegetables (includes fruits) and water. If you are interested in a collection of recipes that will take you through an entire 21-day Daniel fast, click here.

Please make sure to READ THE LABEL when purchasing packaged, canned or bottled foods. They should be sugar-free and chemical-free. Keep this in mind as you review this list of acceptable foods.

Foods to include in your diet during the Daniel Fast

All fruits. These can be fresh, frozen, dried, juiced or canned. Fruits include but are not limited to apples, apricots, bananas, blackberries, blueberries, boysenberries, cantaloupe, cherries, cranberries, figs, grapefruit, grapes, guava, honeydew melon, kiwi, lemons, limes, mangoes, nectarines, oranges, papayas, peaches, pears, pineapples, plums, prunes, raisins, raspberries, strawberries, tangelos, tangerines, watermelon
All vegetables. These can be fresh, frozen, dried, juiced or canned. Vegetables include but are not limited to artichokes, asparagus, beets, broccoli, Brussels sprouts, cabbage, carrots, cauliflower, celery, chili peppers, collard greens, corn, cucumbers, eggplant, garlic, ginger root, kale, leeks, lettuce, mushrooms, mustard greens, okra, onions, parsley, potatoes, radishes, rutabagas, scallions, spinach, sprouts, squashes, sweet potatoes, tomatoes, turnips, watercress, yams, zucchini, veggie burgers are an option if you are not allergic to soy.
All whole grains, including but not limited to whole wheat, brown rice, millet, quinoa, oats, barley, grits, whole wheat pasta, whole wheat tortillas, rice cakes and popcorn.
All nuts and seeds, including but not limited to sunflower seeds, cashews, peanuts, sesame. Also nut butters including peanut butter.
All legumes. These can be canned or dried. Legumes include but are not limited to dried beans, pinto beans, split peas, lentils, black eyed peas, kidney beans, black beans, cannellini beans, white beans.
All quality oils including but not limited to olive, canola, grape seed, peanut, and sesame.
Beverages: spring water, distilled water or other pure waters.
Other: tofu, soy products, vinegar, seasonings, salt, herbs and spices.


Foods to avoid on the Daniel Fast
All meat and animal products including but not limited to beef, lamb, pork, poultry, and fish.
All dairy products including but not limited to milk, cheese, cream, butter, and eggs.
All sweeteners including but not limited to sugar, raw sugar, honey, syrups, molasses, and cane juice.
All leavened bread including Ezekiel Bread (it contains yeast and honey) and baked goods.
All refined and processed food products including but not limited to artificial flavorings, food additives, chemicals, white rice, white flour, and foods that contain artificial preservatives.
All deep fried foods including but not limited to potato chips, French fries, corn chips.
All solid fats including shortening, margarine, lard and foods high in fat.
Beverages including but not limited to coffee, tea, herbal teas, carbonated beverages, energy drinks, and alcohol.
Remember, READ THE LABELS!

Thursday, April 9, 2009

Customer Service?

To any and all who work in the field of customer service, I applaud you on embarking on a difficult task. We, the consumer, can be hard to deal with at times. We are needy, bossy, bi*chy-at-times, short, demanding . . . an endless list of adjectives come to mind.

I guess we should define all of those who work in the customer service industry. My definition would be any one who serves the public in any capacity. Gas station attendant, check. Grocery store cashier, check. Department store sales, check. Waitress/waiter, check. Personally I have often worked in customer service. I have been a waitress, a sales clerk in a department store, an assistant manager at a national women's clothing store and most recently I have worked with the health care patient population.

Where has customer service gone?? When did it become an acceptable part of your routine (while taking my order) to partake in conversation with your co-worker (three times)? Are you oblivious to the car seat hanging off of my elbow and the two rambunctious boys I am trying to corral by MYSELF while you stop listening to my order and answering my questions? Does it seem right to you that I should have to ask you for permission to complete my order? I mean, pardon me for the interruption but this car seat is heavy (there is a baby inside, after all) and these two boys - you have no idea what they could do to your lobby if I don't keep them at my side.

Or when did it become acceptable for you and your friend to have a gossip fest in the middle of scanning our purchases and bagging our groceries? I feel uncomfortable listening to the personal exploits of your inner circle while you ring us up. It distracts me from making sure everything rings up at proper sale price. It feels awkward when I have to interrupt your conversation to ask a question.

Or how long do I have to wait at this desk for you and your personal phone call to end or for you to finish facebooking/i-chatting or for you and your co-worker to finish discussing a previous customer. Do you see us standing in front of you, waiting (not so patiently?) Is it rude of me to interrupt and say 'excuse me' for your attention?

Customer service is a really hard job. The public is hard to deal with (me included, sometimes.) I just thought you might want to know that giving a smile, being polite and professional, saving your personal and/or work conversations for another time -- these go a loooooong way. And seriously, once you're off the clock you can ignore us all you choose (although I'd prefer you didn't :)

Monday, March 23, 2009

Irish Jig Results


I did it! I ran my first 5k last Saturday - after working 3rd shift at the Sleep Clinic, even. Although my time was not too impressive (30:11) it was fun and I think I'll do it again. I ran with 3 other sleep techs and while we were at work the night before we made t-shirts (plain white t with green bubble paint) with our names and the slogan on the back 'Work all night, run all day: Sleep Tech Run Club '09." We're in talks to do the Riverbank Run on May 9. I think I may want to aim for the 10K but we'll see! I'll post pics later.

Now may the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace in believing, that you may abound in hope by the power of the Holy Spirit." Romans 15:13

Thursday, March 19, 2009

Mountains

I've been training for a 5k this coming Saturday, 'The Irish Jig.' I've been pushing myself harder, higher, faster, further. 3 mile runs have become a thing of the past as I've decided I can run 5 miles - every time. Well, now I'm loving 6 mile runs -- this is crazy for me at age 33 and 3 kiddos. Especially in light of the fact that I was never a runner before (I liked short sprints!) You might say that I'm addicted. I love the feeling of accomplishment afterward, the endorphin rush and no, I don't mind all the sweat.

I recall lots of sermons based on Matthew 17:20 and 21:21 talking about having faith to face and yes, even move your mountains. Just have faith, even faith as small as a mustard seed and you can move that mountain out of your way. Have you heard one of these sermons?

I've been adding in moderate inclines (think small or medium hills) and some speed work into my daily runs and it has got me thinking about hills, valleys and mountains that we face in our lives. Consider this: is it possible or likely that our Creator might want us to actually climb some of these hills or gulp, mountains? I think so.

As I've added speed, inclines and distance into my runs I've noticed lots of physical, emotional and spiritual changes in myself. Running hard, fast and long makes me stronger in all three areas. Physically I am seeing my body and muscles change over time, my lung capacity increase, my weight decrease. Emotionally I am more strong, confident and capable. Spiritually I know truly "I can do all things through Christ Jesus who strengthens me." Philippians 4:13

So often when facing one of life's hurdles i.e. difficult parts of relationships, finances, parenting, etc. I just want to see that problem disappear miraculously. But as I recall each hardship or difficulty from the past, I also recall lessons I've learned, insights God has given, changed behaviors/attitudes (yes, I'll own up to the desperate need for that:) Each 'mountain' has had immeasurable value in the process and at the end.

Life is tough sometimes. But even when it is tough, or we encounter tough things, we can always be assured that ". . . in all things God works for the good of those who love Him, who have been called according to His purpose." Romans 8:28 and that God says in Jeremiah 29:11 "For I know the plans I have for you . . . plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future."

There's a little cupful of sunshine I'll drink this afternoon :)

Thursday, February 26, 2009

I'm a Little Teapot?


Okay, so I blew it this morning. Yesterday afternoon, too, for that matter. All of sudden 'the old man' or my temper is rising up at a moment's notice.

Yesterday, I became irate with my husband because he took a little extra time to come home and help with the kiddos so that I could clean house. I feel terrible about it now. He walks in with a lovely, fresh haircut and it ticked me off! Poor J, he probably that he was in for a compliment (is there anything hotter than a hubby with a fresh haircut?) and instead he got steamrolled.

This morning, Carter wanted to goof off instead of getting ready for school. Typical 7 year old behavior -- where did my patience and tolerance go? I was so frustrated that I could hardly contain myself. I felt like a tea kettle with boiling water inside whose whistle is sounding through and through the house. I'm glad I saw him at school at lunchtime so we could reconnect!

It's times like these that remind me how much I need You, Jesus. Help me to remember to crucify my flesh (that stubborn old man) and be made new daily in You. Lord I'm asking for extra measures of your patience and tolerance today and the rest of this week. Fill me up with Your extravagant love for my husband and my kids (who I think I love sooo much but I know You love them even more!) Help me --- so that Your love will shine through to my family and all others that I encounter. Help me also to be angry yet sin not!

Monday, February 16, 2009

Workin' it Out

Alright, today was another running milestone day for me . . . 5 miles with a brief sprint at the end. I'm getting there! Well, as far as endurance and strength are concerned. I can't seem to stop eating like I'm still prego. Where is my willpower, determination and self-control when it comes to food (okay, wine too?)

I started working out when Viv was 4 or 5 weeks old. She is now 14 weeks and I've lost about 7 -9 pounds. I just can't seem to get it off as quickly as I'd like to. I know that I really need to start shaving away calories and reducing my portion sizes and keeping it to one glass of wine on occasion. The problem lies within the realization that I really just don't want to. I'd be happy to work out 2, 3 hours a day (I know that's weird, but I really enjoy it) but I really have no desire to cut back the caloric intake.

I guess I need to change my mindset from thinking that I can eat/drink extra calories because I'm running/working out frequently to thinking that I don't want the extra calories because I don't want to waste my workout.

Thursday, February 12, 2009

The night before . . .

Here I am, the night before MNO (the single Mom's Night Out event at VN) cutting construction paper hearts. I'm tired, my hands are tired but I'm so happy to do it. There's even a smile on my face while I'm thinking about how the kids might enjoy making a valentine for their moms tomorrow and how much their moms might enjoy receiving them!

I think tomorrow night is going to be amazing . . . everything is starting to fall into place (after a couple of shake-ups, but that's normal, right?) We've got great volunteer staff on board, good topics, good food, great moms attending . . . I know God has great things in store for us!

However, I did forget two very important things today. I was supposed to help at Carter's school at lunch time and I was supposed to go to my friend Tammy's daughter Alicia's volleyball game. So, maybe it is time for me to buy a planner?

Baby Vivian (14 weeks old) slept 10 hours last night and I'm praying that she'll do it again! I need to wake up at 7 to get Carter ready for school, feed all 3 kids, pack lunch, get us out the door to the Y for spin class, home to get things ready for work tonight, take care of my kiddos plus any last minute details that might pop up for MNO (Mom's Night Out,) try to take a nap (I am working third shift tomorrow night, after all,) go to MNO, execute the plan, go to work. After I punch out around 7:30, I have to go to the credit union in the am to attend to some business and then . . . sleeeeep . . . .

Sunday, February 8, 2009

More from the parenting study, 'Raising Responsive Children'


Biggest takeaways from todays' lesson to follow.

"From infancy, input from the outside continually shapes how our children perceive themselves. They aren't wrapped up in who they think they are, but in who they think others think they are, and parents are their most influential 'other.'

and

"Charles Boyd 'tells us 'You are a mirror your child looks into every day, and you reflect back to her what she will come to believe about herself.'

and

"Every time we interact with our children we send a message that conveys what they perceive we think of them - that they're smart or stupid, untrustworthy or reliable, capable or inept, fun or dull, lovely or unlovely. Good or bad, our messages will remain in their database, and there's no 'delete' button we or they can hit to remove the unwanted, unhelpful, or even unintentional input. Because God knows our kids, He can help us with the healthy messages crucial to shaping a healthy concept of themselves."

(all bolds and italics mine for emphasis)

I'm so grateful to serve a God who can use even me. I'm ever more grateful that he can take my mistakes and use them for His glory. I'm happy to know that all things work together for the good of them that love Him.

Lord, help me to see my children through Your eyes. Help me to see the individual uniqueness that you have given them to allow them to become who you have created them to be. Help Jeff and I to send our children good messages that let them know that they are loved, valuable, special, beloved and a part of Your perfect plan.

Saturday, February 7, 2009

Can't sleep . . . augh.

On weekdays my full-time job is that of a SAHM (stay at home mom.) On weekends, I work third shift as a polysomnographic technologist (sleep studies.) Today, Saturday, is my sleep recovery day and then I will work again tonight. About an hour ago, my favorite little noisy tornado was tearing through the house at full force and volume and woke mommy up. Daddy had his hands full changing baby girl and helping Carter get ready for a birthday party.

It's not hard to fall asleep after you work third shift. It is, however, VERY hard to remain asleep after working third shift. It is even harder to go back to sleep after waking up in 'the middle of the night' so to speak. The sun is up and shining, my family is active and my natural inclination is to get up and go. Oh, and I whine a little, too. Okay, a lot.

I thought if I did a quick 'brain dump' on the blogger it might be easier for me to fall back asleep clear-headed.

This week ahead will be a very busy one! Along with our usual schedule, I am also planning and preparing and recruiting for a ministry event that I have co-led monthly in the past and am now leading on my own. I am so excited about this albeit slightly nervous that I will overlook some important detail or area of the event.

Monthly at Vineyard North we host a single mom's 'Night Out.' We anticipate the RSVPs of anywhere from 12 - 25 ladies and their children. We offer free childcare, a fine restaurant quality dinner and dessert and a short teaching on various topics at the end of the night. This gives the ladies a much needed break, the opportunity to build relationships i.e. community with other moms in their situation and/or Vineyard North women volunteers.

We have a lot of fun getting to know each other better and I love being able to bless these moms in this way. I remember how tough life was when I was a single mom for a couple of years. I also remember how much I appreciated any opportunity to get together with other moms and how helpful it was to live in community with them. Every mom needs that!

I'd love it if you'd partner with me in prayer for the moms attending MNO! I'd really love it, too if you'd pray for me - I need extra measures of wisdom, discernment, creativity and organization.

Alright, I think I'll try to go back to sleep now. ZZZZZzzzzzzzzzzzz . . . .

Friday, February 6, 2009

I love my life!

What could be better than this? A smiling, happy, healthy, beautiful baby girl. A cheerful, exuberant toddler boy with a grin that lights up the darkest room. A sweet, smart, sensitive second grade son. It is true what the psalmist said in

Psalm 127: 3 -5a

"Children are a heritage from the Lord, offspring a reward from Him. Like arrows in the hands of a warrior are children born in one's youth. Blessed is the man whose quiver if full of them . . . "

I'm truly grateful and honored that You created us to be their parents and them to be our children. You have given me great joy!

Thursday, February 5, 2009

World's Smallest Tornado


My sweet little Cameron is one strong-willed little tornado. Today, I found myself wondering if we might be able to apply to the Guinness Book of World Records for the number of time-outs in one day. This boy is such a cheerful, sweet, lovable, likable little guy. He seriously is a tornado, tho. Currently Daddy is out at Menard's purchasing two new mini-blinds to replace the ones he has destroyed within days of each other. Yes, Cameron thought it was interesting to see how the blinds broke in half with one quick karate chop or kick. And the vertical blinds, well there are two sections missing in those. Yesterday he scribbled on the wall with pencil. He knows these are unacceptable behaviors.

Do you think this boy is a little bit jealous of the attention baby sister is taking away or what?

Monday, February 2, 2009

POTTY TRAINING

Okay, here's the deal. He'll go number 1 almost anytime we ask him to. He's even gone number 2 on occasion. However, after a full year of being capable, he still opts not to do it.

Time for an intervention. Hello microwave timer. Several of my girlfriends have done this successfully, so here goes. Every 20 minutes for the next two days you are on that toilet seat, like it or not. Cameron Dale, you will be out of diapers by the end of the week (I hope!)

Sunday, February 1, 2009

Self talk.


We all do this. I have this constant, internal narrative throughout the course of my day (and sometimes night.) I am forever beating myself up internally for how I could have done something better, been more creative, more patient, more thoughtful, more intelligent or just . . . better.

I participate in a women's Bible study at church on Tuesday mornings and currently we are doing a study from the Following God series entitled, Raising Responsive Children. I think that this study, so far, has been the richest we've done in a long time. The author drops pearls of wisdom in every paragraph and margin.

"If we perpetuate the mindset of 'never good enough,' that's exactly what we become, and it's only a matter of time before we see that same pervasive wave of dissatisfaction in our children."

It's one thing when we choose (sometimes unintentionally) to beat ourselves up. But to pass that along to my kids? No way. I want so much more for them than this.

And what does this say to my Creator? Thanks, Lord, but You could have done better? Oh, Lord, help me to love who I am that You have created. Help me to keep growing into the woman in Christ that you have created me to be!

Talking with some girlfriends around the holidays, one of my favorite people Robyn was sharing some of her excellent advice about parenting. My favorite admonition that she gave was to be encouraged in knowing that 'you are the best parent for your child. God put them in your home on purpose. ' He choose me! For these incredible kiddos! ME! I feel so honored, so privileged and sometimes so unworthy to hold such a noble position.

Back to the starting point. I am deciding right now to choose to change my self-talk. I am going to learn to appreciate the gifts, talents and abilities that my Father has endowed me with and use them to fulfill His purposes. I want to honor Him with my self-talk and model that for my kids.

Thanks for bringing this lesson to my attention, Lord.